July 2017 marks the 5 year anniversary of our move to Dublin. Over the next few months I’m writing a few posts to share about that journey. You can keep up with all posts in this series here.
The girls up at the Giants Causeway 2010
Through the rest of February Liz and I talked and prayed and began to sense more and more that Ireland was in our future….and sooner rather than later. At the same time we knew that there were two group of people we needed to have in agreement with whatever decision we reached.
I’ll share a bit about the first group today, and then the second group in our next post.
As you may have read before, all three of our daughters were given a veto over our move to Ireland. Brenna thought we were supposed to go…Erin and Hannah both said “no.”
To be honest, the exact time line is a bit fuzzy. Here’s what I remember…
In mid-March we shared with the kids what we’d been thinking and sensing as far as Ireland. There was no celebration. But Méabh’s arrival in late March stayed the main focus.
At some point in the next couple months Erin went to bed one night and dropped change on her dresser. When she woke up in the morning the coins looked similar to the Vineyard UK’s logo, and that spoke to her. (She is our most visually oriented kid.) She still wasn’t excited, but she began to believe God was in this.
So what convinced Hannah? Nothing. Hannah never said, “I think we should move.” In fact, she told us we were nuts.
But as the timeline began to fall into place, we decided we wouldn’t move until Hannah graduated from high school. We knew it would be hard to leave her behind, but she would go away to university and this seemed to make sense.
Major Plot Twist
When we were over here in 2010 we took a tour of Trinity College in Dublin. Mainly we wanted to see the Book of Kells, but took the college tour too. Hannah fell in love with the school. And so when she applied to college the following year, she only applied one. No safety schools…no second and third choice. She applied to Trinity College Dublin and that was it. And she got in.
So, she thought we were nuts for moving to Dublin, but she was going too.
A couple things I learned through this…
- Back in July I believed giving the kids a veto on moving to Dublin was God directing. But at the same time, I figured it ended any chance of us getting there. Throughout those two years, the lesson I learned over and over was about trusting Him.
- Leadership is often presented about telling people what we are doing and then getting them on board. But Liz and I didn’t do that…we felt w needed to trust our kids to listen, pray, and make decisions that affected themselves, and the rest of the family. As we’ll share later, there is a lot about moving to another country that is just hard. And we know everyone says the worst time to move kids is high school and middle school…we’d agree. I believe part of God’s wisdom in this part of the process was that the kids were able to be active participants in this process. That didn’t make it easier for them…but they have each grown so much through this.
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